Meditation: The goal of meditation is not to control your thoughts, but it's to stop letting them control you. |
- The goal of meditation is not to control your thoughts, but it's to stop letting them control you.
- Right now as I type these words to you...
- I forget that I am meditating, thats how distracted my mind becomes.
- Taking care of Ego and Selfishness with help of Meditation.
- Meditation is just practicing existence.
- How to stop thinking about not thinking
- This is the closest I've gotten to feeling high
- What am I doing?
- I am so tired of all the noise around me.
- What kind of meditation is your favourite and why?
- Leaving this sub
- Making a mental "to-do" list while meditating
- My Meditation Journey
- Mindfulness and COVID
- One of Many Ways That Meditation "Works"
- Requesting understanding/knowledge regarding strange/difficult/scary sensation
- Is meditation with music less effective than without music?
- this is probably a dumb question but i’m new
- Looking for Headspace buddies
- What techniques can you use to balance the chakras?
- Anyone else see lights, shadows, shapes, etc. moving on your eyelids when deep in meditation?
- Metta (loving kindness) meditation and autism?
| The goal of meditation is not to control your thoughts, but it's to stop letting them control you. Posted: 23 Aug 2020 07:14 AM PDT |
| Right now as I type these words to you... Posted: 23 Aug 2020 12:45 PM PDT To be honest I didn't know if I was going to live to be 40 years old. Here I am long past 40. Spent a year in Viet Nam back in '71. Been to Africa and many other countries on five continents. Put myself in danger many times in my life all in the good name of adventure! Question everything! That's what I did, I questioned everything. Don't know how much future I have left, maybe a few years or less. All I know is that I don't live in it. And I don't live in the past. Live now, right now in the present moment. And in this moment as I type these words to you, all I want to do is let you know of the immense amount of love there is waiting for you. Lots of bad in this world to be sure. And lots of good there is too! And only a limited amount of room on this planet. So in this moment all I ask is that you spread the love, spread the good. The more good there is in this world the less room there is for the bad. So please do spread the good! – Paine 🙏🏻 [link] [comments] |
| I forget that I am meditating, thats how distracted my mind becomes. Posted: 24 Aug 2020 12:57 AM PDT I used to meditate everyday for 10 minutes about 2 years ago. I stopped for no reason. I wanna get back now, but it is terribly difficult to get back into it. My mind is so distracted that throughout the session, I forget i was meditating and go down the rabbit hole of daydreaming. I usually meditate in bed in the morning or at night. [link] [comments] |
| Taking care of Ego and Selfishness with help of Meditation. Posted: 23 Aug 2020 08:55 PM PDT Ego is like a dust in the eyes, without clearing the dust you cannot see clearly.Today when I reflect back on various incidents happened in my life, I just see how many times, just because of my own ego I have lost so much and there were even times and incidents when out of my unawareness, all I wanted was the other person to suffer. Now when I reflect on that past and notice others doing the same, I can clearly see how our ego blinds us and even takes us towards the wrong doings. This is what we need to be aware and mindful of, how sometimes our action and behaviour completely changes under the influence of our EGO or the I, ME and MINE.See how this behaviour leads us to miss so many opportunities, opportunities small as making our day more pleasurable to big as changing our life completely. Opportunities comes to us in so many ways, all the times. But instead of making the right decision and at least think about accepting the offer we just reject it outright, without even giving it a single thought, only because all of the sudden we stop liking one of the person involved or just want to make the person involved feel miserable.A very small example, One day you asked your partner to go out for dinner, but due to some work he couldn't go, he apologized for it and asked to do it next time. But next time when he asks you to go for a movie or dine out. Just because of the previous incident where you felt let down, just out of revenge you say no. At that moment, our ego definitely gets a boost, but if you just analyse you have just soiled your mood twice already. In a bigger picture what I mean is we get so much carried away by emotions of self and get blinded by them so much, that we forget to do what is right and best for all. One can't even imagine how many opportunities we miss out just because of feelings of jealousy and feeling of revenge, where our emotions heavily take control of us. Learn how to not get carried away by emotions, click here.This is just one of the examples, we see these kinds of situations everyday in our life. Just because of our ego, emotions, feelings, we suffer so much and deprive ourselves from lots of pleasure moments, after all that's what we always run for right. If not checked well, this behaviour goes in loop and no one else is looser in this except you.Most of our life we just spend thinking and feeling. If there are good thoughts then we feel good and if bad thoughts then we feel bad. It would never be if you think bad and just feel good. Means thoughts, feelings and emotions they are just one. Thoughts are very jumpy they change in microseconds, but emotions take a long time to distance from you. Some emotions may even take years, but they do definitely distance from you as well. So a right awareness of how mind and body works is absolutely crucial for making right choices in life. Learn to make right choices, click here.How to make decisions and choices, without influence of ego.1. Understanding: We need to develop the attribute of Understanding inside us. We always say, I need you to be understanding of the situation, why can't the other person be more understanding? Why is that I have to understand everything and sacrifice always. What is this actually what we need to understand? What all this understanding entails?It means understanding how this universe works, how people behave, how we all are not aware and heavily under the influence of our emotions and thoughts. So understanding what the other person did, you feel has hurted you. In fact the other person is also not completely aware of how his actions have affected you, or even knows what he is doing. So our ego blinds our vision and takes away the ability to make the right call. For example, when we come under the influence of our emotion, say anger we lose control of ourselves, same goes for others. Similarly, he is not aware of his own actions, he is not aware of his greed, anger or selfishness which is driving him.The first step is to start with this understanding, understand that the other person is not aware of his actions, also we are not aware of our ego which is driving as well. Until we raise this understanding, goodness can never happen. First step is understanding and then the second is awareness. Learn more about awareness, click here.2. Awareness: Once you got this understanding that everyone is unaware of their actions, then making the right call becomes a bit easy. To raise our level of awareness and come out of ignorance, one has to experience this awareness, awareness of how we get overwhelmed by our thoughts and emotions, how we are always looking out and trying to blame others, but not seeing we are exactly doing the same to others, awareness towards how our ego blinds us and fogs our vision, awareness of how everything is impermanent, awareness of how we are always busy in this game of emotions and thoughts. Once you have experienced this, then understanding towards our reactions and others reactions will become very easy to you and so is the path of less suffering and right change.3. Acceptance: We are not our thoughts and are not our emotions, so no need to personalize them. This acceptance is absolutely necessary for getting that experience in order to bring the change. Because until we accept the very basic fact of how we are heavily controlled by emotions and how they blinds our judgements we can never achieve the level of happiness we always want. Unacceptance simply means the fight is still going on inside you. Bring that acceptance inside you, acceptance towards how things happen. Acceptance towards problems in others life, acceptance towards how situations and events can go in any direction, acceptance towards the things not being in anyone's control, acceptance towards how jealousy blinds us, acceptance towards the change which is happening every moment, acceptance towards sufferings in life.Ego feeds on non acceptance and blindness, with acceptance we can be reduce the bring the change and reduce the influence of our ego.3. Forgiveness: When the understanding level will go higher, the forgiveness will also go higher and the pain you go through will be very less. It is not just we need to forgive others, we need to forgive ourselves also. If something wrong has happened or done by you, do not keep the guilt inside you, but just forgive yourself and accept it as a mistake done, no need to carry on living with it, rather take it as a lesson and learn from it. Forgiveness will be really helpful for changing our attitude towards life, towards others behaviours and our reactions. Because if you are at peace with your emotions and reactions, only then you can see clearly and do the right thing. Learn more about forgiveness, click here.4. Love and Compassion: There is no other better way for making your life beautiful than love and compassion. Don't just love others but love yourself first. With love you can Increase the level of compassion and kindness towards others and towards yourself. When there is love, then jealous stands no chance and ego can never over power you. Be proud of others, their accomplishments and be encouraging to do more. Maturity is the best superiority and it doesn't come with age, but when we learn to do the right things. Let's be more kind to others and ourselves, make our heart strong.5. Impermanence and Let go: Everything changes slowly but definitely. What's the point of keeping a grudge when things will change eventually. Just let go of the hurt or emotion which brings the suffering to you and make most of this life. They say time heals everything, as with time we forget things. How about we make an active call to move on instead of just leaving it to time. Letting go means quickly moving away from an incident hurting you and coming in control of life.6. Strong Decisions: If someone is hurting you constantly and makes you feel bad everytime, then maybe it is time to take some strong calls and remove yourself from the company of those people. Forgive them, accept them the way they are, understand their unawareness, out of compassion tell them where things are wrong. If the other person changes for good then that's great, but if not then maybe it's time to move on also. Letting go of ego doesn't mean reducing the value of self in any means, you deserve all the goodness and love in the world.First and foremost, we have to solve a problem related to our ego by doing a simple let go exercise which involves a little understanding and therapeutic forgiveness. We need to see how our ego makes us selfishly negative and makes us take actions which are highly self driven towards destruction, right understanding and awareness with letting go, forgiveness and love will not only make your life better and happier, but also makes us a better person.ThanksCalm Mind Power[link] [comments] |
| Meditation is just practicing existence. Posted: 23 Aug 2020 11:05 AM PDT Sitting in a place, sensing all that there is around you, and inside you. Hearing, but not processing the ambient noises of your surroundings. Feeling the heat of the sun. Smelling the bacon that your roommate is cooking. Feeling your heart beat and send blood through your veins. Hearing your breathing and feeling the air in your lungs ebb and flow like the tides. Meditation is being, and nothing else. [link] [comments] |
| How to stop thinking about not thinking Posted: 23 Aug 2020 09:03 PM PDT Whenever I try to meditate (and often just in general), I get caught up thinking about not thinking. I try to empty my mind and/or control my thoughts, but then I cant stop thinking about trying not to think and I can't seem to stop. Any tips?? PS: I have ADHD and anxiety [link] [comments] |
| This is the closest I've gotten to feeling high Posted: 24 Aug 2020 12:33 AM PDT I started listening to Buddhist mantras a couple days ago, and today I started seeing bodhisattvas and wonderful colours. I was dancing to the music in heavenly spaces. I have never tried any drugs or had any psychedelic experiences, but I imagine this comes close. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 24 Aug 2020 12:33 AM PDT So what I do is sit in half lotus in quiet and just be calm I geuss? I don't elaborate on my thoughts but I don't try to completely stop them. It works but I have no idea what you would call it. And would there be anything to add to make my meditation better? [link] [comments] |
| I am so tired of all the noise around me. Posted: 23 Aug 2020 06:25 AM PDT People around me seem to NEED to talk all the time. They cannot just sit in complete stillness, they NEED a radio to play some crappy music (they dont even listen to it), they NEED to talk about irrelevant and unimportant things. It's all so tiresome for someoe who likes to sit in complete silence. [link] [comments] |
| What kind of meditation is your favourite and why? Posted: 23 Aug 2020 02:26 PM PDT I'm looking to explore into different types of meditation to see how they specifically impact me. Any tips or thoughts are welcome! :) [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 23 Aug 2020 04:03 PM PDT This sub has some interesting posts, but also has quite a toxic community in that a lot of people tend to show disagreeance and negativity rather than acceptance and positivity. I feel that if this sub was limited to the spiritual side of meditation or purely the scientific side of meditation, it would be a much happier place with constructive conversations. I will probably move any meditation conversations to other spiritual subs for now. Good luck to everyone that is on a spiritual journey! And to those of you that aren't, I sincerely hope meditation does what you need it to and that maybe one day you get to experience the spiritual side of meditation too :) Namaste 🙏 [link] [comments] |
| Making a mental "to-do" list while meditating Posted: 23 Aug 2020 09:24 PM PDT It seems like whenever I'm meditating, I can't help but think of shit I'm going to do directly after meditating, and saving them all in my head like mental chrome tabs open. Am i supposed to avoid this and if so how would you go about it? Thanks! [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 23 Aug 2020 05:37 PM PDT Hey, I've been meditating for a while now and i can remember the first time i tried meditation. Obviously i couldn't even concentrate for 5 min but goin through the spiritual journey helped a lot. I'm still not a pro at meditating but i keep getting better and each experience is a different one. I always use binaural beats while meditating and i found a technique which helped a lot. I don't know if anyone uses it but i tried closing my eyes and imagining the room I'm meditating and visualize a "clone" of myself which is the "higher" me. I imagine this higher me with all the qualities that i want, pure energy and positivity. I let him guide me. For example if my mind wanders he tells me to focus on him and i imitate his breathing. Sometimes i just close my eyes and in that void my eyes see,images come forward. Different shapes colors. Lately I've been seeing different images. Like a movie but i could see the frames going slowly, every image. I always feel my body vibrating, mostly on my hands. One time while i was listening to this binaural beat and my body started vibrating so hard i thought my body was shaking so i stopped meditating. Other times i imagine myself in a calm place like a beach or something and meditate there. Yesterday was one of the most interesting meditation session i've had. I first saw myself in space and visited the Great wall of China and saw the view there. I'm always alone, like no people around me. And then i teleported myself in the amazon rainforest. What i found odd and interesting is that i couldn't visualize myself walking and when i tried to walk it felt like i didn't know how to, i could just leap to one place to another but not walk. There was this river in the rainforest and i washed my face and hands. I could hear the bird and the grass on my feet. I went into the river and i went with the flow. There was a waterfall and i went out of the river and just sat on the edge. Then a raven flew and landed on my head, a wolf stood on my right and a monkey on my left. Like just chilling. I hope someone has had similar things during their meditation. All this things come in my head and i just go with it. When i try to force something on my mind, it won't stay long like 2-5 seconds only. So I'd love to hear what this community has to say about this. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 23 Aug 2020 03:20 PM PDT Hello, This is my first post in this group. I have a question about using mindfulness while shopping during COVID. Where I live, there is a bylaw that masks are mandatory inside a public space. I find myself becoming angry with lots stories playing in my mind, my chest tightening, etc. when I see someone in the same store as me without a mask. I do well at not interacting with them, but the stories keep popping up and I don't like the tight feeling my chest. Am I doing mindfulness right even though I have these thoughts and feelings? [link] [comments] |
| One of Many Ways That Meditation "Works" Posted: 23 Aug 2020 11:52 AM PDT I have been practicing a form of Zen meditation for 30+ years. The deeper I got into the experience, the curiouser I became about this age-old phenomenon. My curiosity grew into stacks of reading and untold web searches. No great surprise, the writings of Zen masters were often inspirational but just as often steeped in abstract Eastern lingo. And I found "scientific" explanations about meditation and the brain waves it induces to be sterile, void of any deeper meaning. But over time, I noticed a number of common threads throughout both past and present writings that burn at least some of the fog away on meditation's wonderful mystery. Here's one that I especially like, in my own words: Meditation taps into a core part of your being that has been buried over time in layers of life experiences – some good, some bad – all tucked away in ways that can consciously or unconsciously shape how you see things in life – especially how you see yourself. But through mediation, you peel off the layers and find your original self. You shed your ego and stop being your multi-layered you. It's refreshing to simply be. To be free. Buddha said, "Wear your ego like a loose-fitting garment." In other words, have the capacity to shed your precious self-image like a snake sheds its skin. [link] [comments] |
| Requesting understanding/knowledge regarding strange/difficult/scary sensation Posted: 23 Aug 2020 04:49 PM PDT Let me start out by thanking anyone who is willing to offer me some support here. So I'm not a regular meditator. I dream a lot and often walk the line between being within the dream realm and waking reality. In this state I have this visualization that occurs where my eyes are closed and in the darkness I see a spinning orb. It starts out black with a mote of light circling it. When I concentrate I can make that mote spin faster and faster, and as I do the orb becomes brighter and more intense. At the same time, I begin to hear a tone or ringing that becomes louder and louder and a physical sensation of vibration.. like a hum, that also becomes more and more intense. And as it grows exponentially in intensity, the more difficult it becomes to hold on to, it becomes scary like i'm losing complete sense of myself or dying or something. To the point that I'll panic and reject it upon which I'll jolt myself and end up closer to the waking world than the dream world I was just in. But it's not TOO bad of a jolt that I can't get back to it. In fact, in no time at all if I refocus I can get back to that place, but no matter how I try to relax into the intensity I eventually panic and am jolted back. So knowing I can't yet get into that place I've detoured and tried something else, I've tried getting as close as I can to it (this overwhelming buzz of energy that always zaps me out), and instead of getting bounced out, last second I try opening my eyes.. and the strangest thing appears to me. It's like this translucent curtain of hexagons, and inside each corner of the hexagon are circles.. or perhaps more hexagons I can't quite focus or keep it long enough to tell. The longer my eyes are open the more it fades and I wake up and reality solidifies. Thanks for reading this far. So, any thoughts on what this is? Possible solutions on letting myself fall into that overwhelming buzz? Are we in a god damn simulation? What's going on?? This was the only place I thought I could go to get some advice. Thanks guys. EDIT: I'm not on drugs. [link] [comments] |
| Is meditation with music less effective than without music? Posted: 23 Aug 2020 02:34 PM PDT Okay, so I've been on and off with meditating, i really love it but there's too much sounds going around inside my house as the walls are really thin, i get sidetracked a lot and find it hard to focus. I love meditating with music on but i have a strong feeling that it's way more less effective than without music on and is the main reason why I've been on and off with it, what do you guys think? And also maybe suggest some few calm meditation music? Thank you in advance. [link] [comments] |
| this is probably a dumb question but i’m new Posted: 23 Aug 2020 01:59 PM PDT i'm really new to meditation but still sorta familiar with it. i'm not really sure how to go about it and actually meditate. i've tried guided meditations but it feels difficult to focus and i feel fidgety when i do them :3 can someone gimme advice or guide me in a direction that i should go in? (i'm actually quite young and wanna get into this as soon as possible) thanksss [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 23 Aug 2020 12:21 PM PDT Hi guys I'm restarting my meditation journey after neglecting it after a year. I am a 29 year old guy from India. I was wondering if I can find some headspace buddies here to keep each other motivated? [link] [comments] |
| What techniques can you use to balance the chakras? Posted: 23 Aug 2020 07:12 PM PDT |
| Anyone else see lights, shadows, shapes, etc. moving on your eyelids when deep in meditation? Posted: 23 Aug 2020 03:22 PM PDT I'm not sure how to properly describe it, but it only happens when I'm really deep in meditation, have let go of my thoughts and "opened my mind" so to speak. I can't see these things if I were to just close my eyes right now, and if I start focusing on them they go away. I don't even experience this when falling asleep/waking up, or in that hypnagogic state, only when meditating. Most of the time it's like orbs or circles of lights, or "blobs", they're always fluid and moving. Sometimes it feels like shadows moving across my eyelids. Other times it's like a ring of light expanding and expanding until it's gone, and then it comes back and does it again and again. It's like I can almost feel these lights moving on my eyelids, it's a relaxing feeling. At times I've even stopped and opened my eyes just to confirm nothing in front of me is causing this. It's strange but I don't mind it at all, it actually makes mediation a lot more enjoyable for me, haha. I just am wondering if others experience this or something similar? [link] [comments] |
| Metta (loving kindness) meditation and autism? Posted: 23 Aug 2020 12:42 PM PDT Hello all, I was diagnosed as having autism spectrum disorder (and also bipolar type II, but I want to focus on ASD in this post, but if you have tips for that, you're welcome). Simply put, metta meditation is about cultivating benevolence. On the other side, with people who have ASD, their cognitive empathic function tends to be impaired. It seems likely that metta meditation is challenging for people with autism. Does metta meditation 'work' for people with ASD? I have found very little information on metta meditation and autism. Are there people here who are on the spectrum who have done metta meditation? How is it going? Do you have tips? [link] [comments] |
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