Meditation: When someone is abrupt with you, see it for what it is - a reflection of their circumstances |
- When someone is abrupt with you, see it for what it is - a reflection of their circumstances
- Been struggling with dissociation for 3 years and wondering whether mindfulness and meditation can help me get my life back
- A Relaxing Lava Lamp Video
- Struggling in my relationship with my wife of 14 years and need advice
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- Seek help to cure / reduce anxiety
- Medication may be causing me to dissociate
- Is there any specific meditation or techniques to use to look inward and seek traumas or any form of transcending our self?
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- How has meditation changed your life for the better since you started this journey?
- Anger and crying
- Mantra Ideas for Self-Compassion Meditation (with components from ACT psychotherapy)
- What is mediation? Well, it's an ancient practice with lots of benefits which you can feel on yourself. If I made you a bit curious take a look at the video I've made and follow me on this path :)
- How do I stop seeing weird colors, shapes, faces in meditation?
- Has meditation helped you to talk normally ( less anxiety) in public situations
- Is there a fixed amount of 'Jing' energy we are born with within our cells?
- I have a question regarding what I just went through.
- Bedtime meditation frequencies
- Meditation ruins motivation?
- Do you have a practice that is not the classic daily sitting in silence? What is it?
- Honest Question- Mindfulness, Acceptance and Structural Systems
- Am I being too "practical" with my meditation?
- Suggestion for a "workbook" to help bring awareness to the ego, in addition to meditation?
| When someone is abrupt with you, see it for what it is - a reflection of their circumstances Posted: 27 Feb 2021 08:30 AM PST Have you ever had a conversation, maybe with your co-worker or a friend, and they've been a bit abrupt? And you've thoughts afterwards, "what was that about? Are they annoyed at me?" We can get swept away by that anxiety or anger and not see what's really going on. You might go down one of two routes - get anxious that they're upset with you and think of everything that that you might have done that they could have taken offense to, or maybe you get annoyed and you confront them, throwing a coin or two into the swear jar on the way out. We can choose to take a step back and not get swept away by our immediate reaction notice the thoughts arising and listen to what they have to say. Then breathe and allow the thought to pass. Notice what feelings you have attached to them. You can sit with them for a few moments like you would if you were sitting with a friend. Then we can become aware of what judgements we're making. We might be judging our co-worker for being abrupt, we might think "what an asshole", especially if we don't know them well. We might be judging ourselves, thinking that we did something to set them off. Maybe we wish it hadn't happened and try and shut it out of our minds, or maybe you obsess about the incident. However, we can simply notice the behaviour and notice our reaction to it. Doing this will lead to what is almost certainly the right question: "what's going on with them?" In all likelihood they may not even be aware of how they're coming across to you. So you can give them a bit of space and then ask "hey, what's going on with you?" They'll probably be grateful for the opportunity to talk. Of course some people will continue to be rude and abrupt, some people might be rude and abrupt with everyone all the time. Make sure your compassion and understanding isn't reaching the point where your wellbeing is being harmed. Nothing is more important than your peace. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 27 Feb 2021 07:36 PM PST As the title says, I've been dealing with a dissociation disorder (called dpdr to be more specific) for a little less than 3 years now, it's been tough, I've been in very dark places these past few years, thought of seriously ending this weird suffering, but I've always been a gritty guy and I've powered through I don't know how. I won't get into too many details into my symptoms, you can look up the most common symptoms on google, but just so you get a general idea of how it feels, it's like a cocktail of mental health disorders, you feel extreme anxiety/social-anxiety, you don't feel like yourself you feel spaced out 24/7, which causes your self esteem to dive to lows you've never thought possible before, you become someone you are not, the worst possible version of yourself, and it feels really uncomfortable and weird for a lack of better words, all this causes you to slowly dive into depression and not want to do anything besides stay in your room, but you have to go work, and you have to go to school because one cannot stay in their room forever. But you are not going crazy either, you don't hear voices or think someone is following you, you are actually completely sane, and aware that your brain is not acting like it has acted all of your life. I believe this was caused by my psychedelic experiences between the ages of 16-19. I didn't respect these substances like I should have, partly because of peer pressure and just plain old ignorance. I loved psychedelics because the second time I tried acid, in the magical jungles of Tulum, I had my glimpse of enlightenment, obviously as an inexperienced 16 year old I didn't completely comprehend what was actually going on, I thought I was a completely enlightened being, and once this state wore off my ego took control again like it had all my life, but from ages 16-19 I was really happy, I was actually a better and nicer version of myself but it was partly my ego wanting to be this enlightened version of myself which wasn't all that bad considering I could be a big asshole before that. Fast forward to a month ago, now 22, I read The Power Of Now, by Eckhart Tolle, and it was a really big breakthrough for me, I believe that my dpdr is an extreme version of the excessive ego thinking and worrying of the past and future that Tolle describes. I am determined to reach that enlightened state which I tasted at the young age of 16 but now without the help of any psychedelic tools, to ground myself in the present, and be my self, my actual self. Maybe this dpdr is a way for the universe to connect me to my true self, to the present and to the all. I'm now also meditating everyday with the help of Sam Smith and his app Waking Up. I guess I made this post to hear your thoughts on my situation, today was a really bad day and I'm feeling down, maybe one of y'all has gone through something similar, maybe you have some wise words that can make me feel good before I go to sleep. This is my first time posting here but I've been reading some posts and I can see there are a lot of very supportive and very awakened beings in this sub, and I send love to all of y'all and thanks for reading. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 27 Feb 2021 11:23 PM PST Hi Guys [link] [comments] |
| Struggling in my relationship with my wife of 14 years and need advice Posted: 27 Feb 2021 05:04 PM PST Lately Ive been struggling with a few elements in my relationship and feel like meditation is the key to improve things. But I'm not entirely sure how to go about it. Bit of background info: I have always suffered from some form of possessiveness in my relationship. I hate her going out without me or travelling for work (seperation anxiety); I desire sex a lot more than she's willing to give (I believe I want it so I feel more 'wanted' by her). Im constantly plagued by feeling 'not good enough' for her. For years and years I used cannabis habitually. I felt as though it helped me to deal with some of these issues by making me comfortably numb but I have since stopped for a couple of months and have no desire to go back. I want to work on my issues and reach a place of peace and contentment. Part of me feels as though Im struggling so much because I've used her as a crutch for so long to deal with deep inner issues such as loneliness, self esteem etc. Part of my next move is trying to cultivate more friendships and socialising more. I figure if my life revolves around more good relationships Ill be less likely to grip on to this one too tightly. I also feel like meditation and practicing mantras of gratitude could help - but not sure how to put this into practice? Also considering therapy - is it worth doing? Any help would be very much appreciated, thankyou for your time 🙏 [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 27 Feb 2021 11:52 PM PST For hundreds of years, however, what has remained constant is the calming, meditative state singing bowls can create. Singing bowls are useful to Buddhist practitioners and anyone else who is wanting to experience a greater amount of peace and intuition in their daily lives through meditation. Today, singing bowls are found far outside the temples and monasteries of the Himalayan mountains. They are used as tools for meditation or alternative treatment for various illnesses like chronic pain or depression, and more. [link] [comments] |
| Meditating just because you dig it will make the difference Posted: 27 Feb 2021 08:00 AM PST "Meditation is the discovery, that the point of life, is always arrived at the in the immediate moment. Therefore if you meditate for an alterior motive, that is to say, to improve your mind, to improve your character, to be more efficient in life, you've got your eye on the future and you are not meditating. because the future is a concept. It doesn't exist. As the proverb says, tomorrow never comes. There is no such thing as tomorrow. There never will be. because time is always NOW. And that's one of the things we discover when we stop talking to ourselves and stop thinking. we find there is only a present, only the eternal NOW." -Alan Watts [link] [comments] |
| Seek help to cure / reduce anxiety Posted: 27 Feb 2021 09:18 PM PST Hi peeps. Good day to y'all. I have recently developed a sense of anxiety that prevents me from deep sleep at night. I'm worried about my job, my family, my health and also my future partner. A little bit about myself, I'm single, 28 year-old guy, having a temporary position in the bank, don't have bad habits like game/ smoke/ alcohol addiction, but I do have psoriasis, which is something at incurable even with today's medical advancement. Tend to sleep late as I know I will get way sleepy after staring at my computer long enough. I know this is kinda the opposite of healthy sleeping way but I just couldn't figure out how to amend/ fix it. Also, another disease of mine, flu. Since I've had to get up early in the morning, insufficient sleep causes flu as I also have sensitive nose, easily sneeze, so to speak. The kind of anxiety hits me further when I realised I achieved nothing but a temporary bank job at my age. My social circle is very, very small, socially anxious you can call me that. But I'm not depressed till the point I needed to commit suicide, no. I'm just helpless with my current situation, to be happy, care-free, healthy person. Here I am, to put down my ego, seek necessary help with my anxiety, in order for me to sleep well. [link] [comments] |
| Medication may be causing me to dissociate Posted: 27 Feb 2021 03:34 PM PST So I've been meditating daily for a decent amount of time now and initially it was helping me a lot. I felt calmer, more content, and generally at peace. But then as I continued, I started to dissociate very frequently. I'm not sure if this is related because I had dealt with dissociation before but this seemed like it was much more than usual. I'm trying to find answer as to why this is happening, if it's related and how to meditate without getting these effects. Can anyone help? [link] [comments] |
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| How has meditation changed your life for the better since you started this journey? Posted: 27 Feb 2021 11:59 AM PST |
| Posted: 28 Feb 2021 01:28 AM PST So I've been feeling mad toward someone the entire day, nothing big, just someone close to me ignoring me for a very small thing. I hate being ignored. I did not express anything, just left the conversation in a neutral way. But I am mad. Mad as in my arms feel heavy and fingers tingling kind of mad, my fists tightening in frustration every now and then. I did meditate, did productive stuff for hours, and was trying to do yoga when I felt I had to sit my anger down. Then I started crying really hard. I am not even sad. I cannot even even think of a negative or sad thought at the moment. I am not sad, I actually feel kinda relaxed and calm during meditation and yoga with just the anger creeping in every now and then. I feel like the anger had to come out somehow and in the form of tears. I really don't understand but the crying does make me feel a lot better. I honestly have an anger management issue and I am not sure if I am doing it right. I just don't want to lash out at the other person and regret it later because nothing good will come out of it. I just hate how not speaking out or lashing out will just result in this person ignoring me for longer 🙁 [link] [comments] |
| Mantra Ideas for Self-Compassion Meditation (with components from ACT psychotherapy) Posted: 27 Feb 2021 12:21 PM PST I've always struggled with self-criticism and feelings of inadequacy or shame. I'm certainly better nowadays compared to when I was younger, but I know this will always be an area I need to continuously work on. For the past 6 weeks or so I've been practicing primarily self-compassion meditation. I've also been learning more about Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT therapy), also known as "3rd-Wave CBT". I just discovered this form of therapy through my career in mental health and this form of psychotherapy is something that seems to deeply resonate with me as it has a lot of underlying core principles of mindfulness, acceptance, self-compassion and assertive action-taking when appropriate. There are tons of great guided meditations out there, but I just thought it'd be helpful to share some of the mantras/phrases I use while sitting. I'll typically repeat all of these phrases in the following order, then rinse/wash/repeat. I'm also constantly tweaking it based on new ideas I'm discovering from my favorite meditation teachers and thinkers. May I be happy and peaceful May I be kind to myself May I accept all of my imperfections May I accept all of my mistakes We all make mistakes We're all perfectly-imperfect human beings We're all doing the best we can to be happy May I fully accept my thoughts with detachment, curiosity and kindness May I fully accept my emotions with detachment, curiosity and kindness I am not my thoughts, feelings or stories [link] [comments] |
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| How do I stop seeing weird colors, shapes, faces in meditation? Posted: 28 Feb 2021 12:07 AM PST Then I meditate i always see some weird stuff and it always scares me. For example today I kept meditating and seeing white shapes. I continued to meditate and ignore them like most people suggest. However after a while some weird white bald female looking face started looking at me very calmly and emotionless. It wasnt scary in fact it was kinda beautiful then I think about it, but its emotionless look made me scared af. I cant really meditate while seeing these faces/colors/shapes cause they freak me the hell out. Should I meditate eyes open or what? [link] [comments] |
| Has meditation helped you to talk normally ( less anxiety) in public situations Posted: 27 Feb 2021 05:58 AM PST I'm 20, because of my anxiety I cannot talk comfortably with others. what I want Is to talk normally as other person do or atleast not to remain Soo anxious while having conversations .. is there anyone who has experienced this with meditation?? [link] [comments] |
| Is there a fixed amount of 'Jing' energy we are born with within our cells? Posted: 27 Feb 2021 10:03 PM PST I feel that as I age, my kundalini/jing is decreasing more and more. [link] [comments] |
| I have a question regarding what I just went through. Posted: 27 Feb 2021 10:01 PM PST So I'm fairly new to this, I think I may have messed up, by trying to project before learning to become completely mindful. For about a year now, I've been randomly, every day taking a few minutes to close my eyes and let go, nothing crazy every happened, I just become more focused throughout the day. Tonight My wife and I followed a guided meditation for the first time, (for me, not her) I got grounded, and at a certain point, they mentioned "balance" and at that word, I immediately felt a force drop and I was completely separated from my body, this was terrifying I was me, my mind suspended in nothing and no body but aware, I felt like I was trapped in my body, my body felt hollow, like a shell but I could feel the surface beneath my body, and not feel it at the same time. Then my skin began to burn, like the way it feels when you place your palm close to a fire, but from the inside, and a whirlpool opened up and was spinning wildly just pulling all my stuff into it, like my office desk, my tv, my Xbox, just everything that was me was getting sucked into it. At this point my body's is on fire with this internal energy building up, and I, disconnected, but aware was stuck staring at this whirlpool from the base, beneath it. Then everything started spinning, like being on a merry-go-round but it's out of control and darkness, just writing this now is bringing the feeling back, the motion was so fast I began to feel sick, like full on motion sickness and I can't stop it, I didn't even think to just open my eyes, I was scared and dizzy and felt like I was going to throw up, I shouted stop spinning! Again and again and it began to slow down, when it stoped, I opened my eyes, told my wife I had to stop, now I'm here. What was that? TLDR; tried meditation for the first time, got really overheated and motion sickness, what's was it, is it normal? [link] [comments] |
| Bedtime meditation frequencies Posted: 27 Feb 2021 09:35 PM PST Hello! I'm not sure where to post this so please excuse me if this isn't the right place but tonight I learned I had an amethyst crystal and wanted to put on a meditation that correlated with that and found one that played with "singing bowls" I'm not sure of the proper term but many different bowls that played different frequencies and I opened my eyes to my cat right in front of the tv with her paw on the screen. Following the stick and each bowl the person touched. I'm not sure if she was just intrigued by the movement (she has never done this with other shows or YouTube videos). Or if it was the frequencies she was hearing. I'm curious if anyone knows more about this? I was worried it was bothering her so I turned it off but she seemed more intrigued then anything. Just wondering if anyone else has had an experience like this? :) [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 27 Feb 2021 03:33 PM PST I've been meditating 90 minutes a day (45 mins twice) and im honestly not getting anything done these days. No drive to read or do my work but just basically be a bum. is it just me, or am i doing something wrong? i practice mindful meditation. [link] [comments] |
| Do you have a practice that is not the classic daily sitting in silence? What is it? Posted: 27 Feb 2021 09:31 AM PST Just curious what others practice that is not the classic eyes-closed sit for 10-60 minutes daily. Would love to hear what benefits that you get and why you practice it or if you use it along side a more classic seated practice. May you be happy! [link] [comments] |
| Honest Question- Mindfulness, Acceptance and Structural Systems Posted: 27 Feb 2021 12:20 PM PST I've had an ongoing question about meditation, mindfulness, and acceptance. Religion and religious traditions are frequently viewed as tools by the powerful to get an underclass to accept their 'lot in life' as sufficient or even 'right'. Mindfulness and meditation seem like they are great ways to examine how your thoughts work and how things outside of you work, but it also encourages a lot of acceptance of things both within and outside of yourself. I worry that it could be a tool to similarly push for acceptance of unjust systems and to simply 'be' within that. I'm a new meditator, and I think it is important for my own development, but I don't want to simply be and allow an unjust system to persist. Am I missing something or viewing this in the wrong light? [link] [comments] |
| Am I being too "practical" with my meditation? Posted: 27 Feb 2021 01:17 PM PST I should preface this by saying I have only meditated for a few months, so still very early in my journey. I know meditation is an ancient practice with a lot of religious and spiritual significance, it feel like there's tons of mysticism around it, and plenty of people have achieve some profound results with it. But I'm using it simply as a way to calm down my thoughts. I do it once at lunch and once at dinner, so I can focus on work, or school, or just enjoying the moment (eg. when I'm watching a movie with my family or video game with friends) without my negative thoughts. I take note of all my bad thoughts, and is able to respond by either discarding them (eg. coworker was really mean, probably having a bad day) or finding a plan of action (eg. legs been hurting lately, should call the doctor). I'm perfectly happy with what it's doing for me, and have no plans to take it further (eg. doing it more times a day or for longer). Is this a bad attitude to have? Am I misusing meditation? Also, for those of you who were in the same boat as me, did you move on from the practical goal of simply calming your thoughts? Did you find that eventually the practice became more spiritual? [link] [comments] |
| Suggestion for a "workbook" to help bring awareness to the ego, in addition to meditation? Posted: 27 Feb 2021 08:13 AM PST I've been meditating for 5+ years and have experienced a growth in my awareness of my thoughts, feelings, and ego. When I read books that talk about the ego (e.g by Eckhart Tolle) I find that the content and questions stimulate even more awareness in me. Curious if anyone has come across a "workbook" or set of daily prompts that they have found can stimulate this part of the mind in a similar way on a daily basis, and support my mediation practice. [link] [comments] |
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