- YSK: Human beings are very susceptible to bias called 'affective forecasting', i.e. if you feel good now you think you will feel good in the future. If you feel bad now, you are likely to predict you will feel bad in the future. Emotional states are shorter than we expect.
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| I don’t meditate for happiness. I meditate for peace. Posted: 24 Oct 2020 11:38 PM PDT I had been using meditation to keep myself centered during some very difficult times when my emotions were crushing me: fear, stress, anxiety, depression, overwhelm, etc. I didn't try to "get rid" of the feelings, but rather sought to "ride the wave" so-to-speak and just observe the feelings and be present. But recently I have experienced tremendous joy, pleasure, laughter, love, passion, excitement, curiosity, wonder, etc. I have noticed that I need to ride this wave as well. Tonight I meditate to keep myself centered while observing strong positive feelings. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 25 Oct 2020 01:35 AM PDT Hi! I have a question I want to ask that feels slightly embarrassing. I'm attempting to get into meditation currently, and have had several attempts over the last few years as I've heard it could aid in the management of a few conditions I deal with quite severely; OCD, Bipolar 2, generalised anxiety disorder, ED's, depression and misophonia. The trouble is (and this is where the embarrassment comes in) each time I sit down to begin I swell with anger and rage and frustration that feels as though it takes over my entire mind a d body and I haven't been able to sit through it. So my question is: did any of you experience this sensation when you began? Do you have any idea where it stems from, and if applicable did you overcome it? Any answers would be greatly appreciated! Thank you :) [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 24 Oct 2020 10:44 PM PDT Do you guys have one of those days which you can't seem to focus while you are meditating? Like just a bad meditation day? Thoughts are extra wild and you can't seem to just focus. I have them every now and then and thought I should just stopped the meditation and re-schedule it for another time. But I just kept going even though it didn't help me focus at all. If you guys have those experiences, please let me know how you handle it. [link] [comments] |
| How got over my sexual performance anxiety through meditation and other methods (Long post) Posted: 24 Oct 2020 09:40 AM PDT Hey everyone, I decided to make this post because I know of a lot of men who struggle with ED because of performance anxiety and thought is could be beneficial. I want to start off and say that I'm healthy. I exercise four days a week and eat pretty healthy. While I was struggling with ED, I had my testosterone checked and other blood work done to make sure. My doctor and therapist both said it was in my head. Background: A little over four years ago, my now ex-wife cheated, gaslit and emotionally abused me for about 6 months. It left me broken and gave me severe anxiety. We got divorced and I went to therapy for 6 months, which helped a lot! However, as I started dating, it became obvious I was suffering from performance anxiety. I'd have random moments of impotence. I'd be hard and then go limp in the middle. It was now in my head and I feared having sex because of the embarrassment it caused me. How I got over it: There is no quick fix, You have t be patient and kind to yourself. I can't stress this enough. If you beat yourself up at all, it will only make it worse. A couple of years ago, I met an amazing woman who recently became my wife. The ED continued, not every time, but once or twice a week it would occur. I'd be so embarrassed, I'd break out into sweats with I couldn't get it up. Lucky for me, my wife is supportive, had my back, and never made me feel shame. At the beginning of the year, I started going to therapy. I only went for two months, because of COVID and because of money. But it was nice to talk to someone. If you can afford it, I recommend going to therapy. This will assist you in reframing your thoughts. That said, it's not a requirement. I still suffered from ED a lot even when I was going to therapy. However, I feel if I would have been able to continue going, I probably would have beat this thing much quicker. How meditation helped: I've been meditating off and on for four years. At the beginning of the year, I made it much higher of a priority. From March until the end of September, I meditated around 90% of the days. Some days were short (5 minutes) some days were long (60 minutes). In fact, in June I meditated on average of 60 minutes a day. I even posted about it here: https://www.reddit.com/r/Meditation/comments/hjfu3n/what_i_learned_from_meditating_60_minutes_a_day/ This was an awesome experience. That said, I'd recommend not focusing on the length of time, just focus on the quality. I did loving-kindness, body awareness and mindfulness of breath practice. I'd also meditate while masturbating I'd would just focus on how it felt. Meditation by itself didn't cure me of performance anxiety. What it did do is help me accept it and helped me notice how my body felt while making love. I no longer broke out into sweats when I couldn't get it up. I was able to laugh it off, even when sometimes I was still embarrassed. It was no longer the end of the world and I wouldn't go into a state of anxiety when it happened. Next recommendation is talk to your significant other. This is the most important step. My wife made me feel comfortable. If the person you are with puts you down when this happens, then you should reconsider your relationship or at the very least go to therapy because there is no way I would have gotten over PA if she put me down when it happened. But you also have to be kind...not only to yourself but to your SO. I read so many stories where the man would blame the other person for it. That doesn't help. Balming leads to resentment, My wife and I would talk about it. I would tell her I was embarrassed and that when I couldn't perform, I was afraid of her leaving or cheating. Owning these feels worked wonders because it helped me release these feelings I was trying to hide. It let her reassure me that she loved me, our relationship was more than just sex and that I could please her in other ways (oral sex). It also helped her because it reassured her that she wasn't the cause of the ED and that I was attracted to her. It actually helped bring us closer together. About three months ago, we did a 7 days of Intimacy challenge. It was all online. The was magical. It helped us communicate better about sex, but it also changed our already good sex life (other than the ED issues, of course). With this, we started sleeping naked. Why is this important? I was in this weird situation where I could not get hard if I was naked. Crazy right? I would get hard with our clothes on, but as I took mine off, if I didn't do so quickly enough, I would start going soft. This got me comfortable being limp when I was naked. One thing I left out is in January I got on Cialis. I never took it every three days like you're supposed to, I'd take half a week every 5ish days. I got on it because I thought it would build my confidence. It didn't. All it did was give me anxiety when I knew I hadn't taken it. I even started to fear becoming dependent on it. I'm not saying don't take it. I'm saying it might make your situation worse. So in June, I cut back. At first, I'd take half a pill a week. Then I'd take half a pill every two weeks. Then I made it three weeks. You get the picture. Basically, I slowly built up my confidence that I didn't need it. If I couldn't get it up, I'd resist the urge to take a pill. Once I went three weeks without it, I was like "hey I got hard without it, I don't need it!" The last thing that helped weirdly enough is I hurt my back and had to take steroids for two weeks. y doc told me that steroids could increase my anxiety. So I told my wife this and told her that it if it causes anxiety, I may struggle with ED more than usual. She was ok with this, of course. What this did was it took off the pressure. She now had the expectations that I wouldn't be able to get hard. She'd ask me "hey, want to make out." Sex wasn't an expectation. This was the final step. If you are struggling with ED because of performance anxiety, trust me, you can beat it (pun intended). But you have to be kind and patient with yourself. Don't have a timeline.. TLDR;
Bonus: Cockrings came in handy a few times while this was going on. :-) Conclusion: I know at any point that I struggle with ED again. I'm OK with it happening now. Why? I have no choice because I can't control it. What I can control is how it affects my life. Best of luck! [link] [comments] |
| Hour a day, 180 day practice session beginning October 28th. Posted: 24 Oct 2020 08:02 PM PDT Free (of course), using the Cutting Machinery approach, organized on this FB group. [link] [comments] |
| Looking for a partner (or group) to meditate 60 days for 1 hour per day Posted: 24 Oct 2020 11:59 AM PDT I've been trying to work up to meditating one hour per day for 60 consecutive days as a way to really dig into my mind and address many of the negative beliefs and challenges that I've accumulated throughout my life. Would anyone like to try this with me? I'm very team and community oriented, so having a group to cheer on would help me immensely. I'm going to start 10/25. We could do a google hangouts group or text message group - either one. Denver, Colorado based if anyone ever wanted to meet-up in a park to share experiences / meditate over the next 60 days. Thanks, [link] [comments] |
| Can someone please explain to me the value of the present moment? Posted: 24 Oct 2020 05:04 PM PDT I've read over and over again that the present is all I have and that the only thing that exists is me in this exact time and place. But I can't make myself feel these words. I don't understand why it's so special to be present at this very moment. Can someone explain? [link] [comments] |
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| I just made a new video. I would love it if you can check it out ❤️�� Posted: 25 Oct 2020 01:43 AM PDT |
| Tonight was my first night meditation and something strange happened Posted: 24 Oct 2020 09:05 PM PDT So I really wanted to meditate, I've hit rock bottom about a month ago and quit some addictions and have been doing things to better my life. I tried sitting meditation and was struggling so tried laying down and was still struggling then put my arms and legs in these weird positions and I feel like it opened something up because it was a lot easier for me to meditate and with my eyes closed I saw this ball and the background turned blue and the balls outline was black and a white interior and it would drop, split into two, and reform back at the top you ever heard of that before? Was just wondering if it meant anything [link] [comments] |
| Something I’ve realised about myself Posted: 24 Oct 2020 04:30 PM PDT In moments of fear or insecurity, I lose my ability to know about what reality is and what it isn't. A negative thought has the ability to transform the way life and situations play out- if I have a negative thought, my reality shapes itself around that thought. For example, if I'm around people and I think to myself "nobody wants me here", that thought takes over the world, and every individual interaction as well as the situation as a whole turns into a massive conspiracy against me and different things confirm the negative belief to the point where I become convinced that I can see into another level of the world, a level that has always been there and has always made sense but is only now becoming clear. So in that moment I become convinced that I've just had an epiphany and that everyone really does hate me and I get angry at myself and at the situation and I tell myself that I need to cut everyone out in my life because they hate me but after a while, slowly the confidence in my belief goes away and I'm left confused about every thing because I'm realising that the worst and the best could be equally true and it scares me never knowing what's really true around me when both make so much sense depending on how they're viewed. [link] [comments] |
| It's good to realize how big my ego is Posted: 24 Oct 2020 08:24 AM PDT Yes my ego deceives me but I am happy that I am starting to at least point it out. It's good to see inner emotions which I suppressed come out even when they are not very pleasing. It feels good to be on track ! [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 24 Oct 2020 05:39 PM PDT " You find out that the universe is a system that creeps up on itself and says ' Boo ' and then laughs at itself for jumping. " - Alan Watts ❤️ [link] [comments] |
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| Posted: 24 Oct 2020 10:54 AM PDT Hello everyone ! As the title says I often have tinnitus and it kind of discouraged me to meditate as I focus on the noise. I would like to know if anyone has advices for that, thank you ! [link] [comments] |
| Can I use meditation to quit smoking somehow? Posted: 24 Oct 2020 01:11 PM PDT Hello everybody, I smoke a pack of cigarettes a day and would like to quit this unhealthy habit (I'm 20 btw, been smoking for 3~years) but all the normal techniques didn't work for me so I was thinking about this idea. Any suggestions would be helpful, thanks! [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 24 Oct 2020 07:04 PM PDT I am starting up meditation again after being on and off for a while (but mainly off). As I meditate I notice I have many thoughts going through my head almost constantly, is there anything I should do to clear these thoughts or should I let them be and observe them? It just seems that when trying to clear my head I have so many thoughts that go through it instead. Also on a side note I had a feeling my timer was about to go off (15 minutes) and counted down from 5 in my head and it went off right at 0. Has anyone else experienced this? do I have super powers? I don't know it just was pretty weird. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 24 Oct 2020 07:02 PM PDT Hello, The last few years I have been going on a drawn out Self-awakening, in an effort to better know myself I had attempted to start meditation. I used a guided past life regression audio file from an app. The first two times nothing really happened except I was very relaxed and my spine was a littlr less sore the next day, presumably from the intense relaxation. The third attempt it worked as far as I can summize and I experienced the points in that life that I was told to witness by the guide (childhood. Some Defining moments, and death) Anyway, I waited awhile (about 6 months) before trying again, this was maybe 3 weeks ago. I was trying to get into the relaxed state but I felt a sudden shift of weight on my Bed, (which is odd because its memory foam) i felt a sensation between my eyes, it was almostblike eating too much Chocolate? A Sickly Sweet tickling but almost too the point of being pain? And then I was overcome with a paralyzing terror. I couldn't concentrate and my breathing became very labored and quick. I don't suffer from Panic attacks, but have battled with very mild Sleep paralysis since I was a child (maybe one or two episodes a year) Any theories or advice would be appreciated Thank you [link] [comments] |
| has anyone used meditation to get over a breakup? Posted: 24 Oct 2020 11:27 AM PDT im really struggling. wondering if anyone has any specific exercises theyve used to help move on. if these kind of posts arent allowed please lmk ill delete it [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 24 Oct 2020 06:19 PM PDT How do you deal with it? I personally have chrons and am therefore pretty gassy. Typically I have incense burning while meditating but the days I forget it and then you're trapped there cause you finally got a moment to sit and don't want to lose it. [link] [comments] |
| Trying to start meditation but struggling with it Posted: 24 Oct 2020 12:21 PM PDT So Ive been starting to meditate since I feel like my mind is always racing, especially at night when waking up and Ive been having trouble with sleep for a while. My racing mind is also making everyday life a bit harder as I have a hard time to concentrate and similar stuff. I decided to try to start meditating in order to maybe make things a little bit better but I struggle with it. Its either that I cant stop thinking and when I try to let go of the thoughts then they will just come back in a few seconds. The other thing I have trouble with is that I find that most guided meditations mostly sound stupid when you have someone trying to say comforting stuff and my mind starts to critize that instead of focusing on the meditation. Meditations that is guided trough slide shows with pictures has worked the best for me but Ive barely found any of those. Does anyone have any tips on what I can do to make it better? Currently Im just trying it for a few days but I ll always end up quitting as I feel like it makes no difference. [link] [comments] |
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