Meditation: Don't hate your ego - invite it to the table |
- Don't hate your ego - invite it to the table
- I wrote this reminder to help me. I hope that this might help someone out there too.
- Every time I meditate, I’m reminded that there’s nothing I need to get that could add to what I already am.
- "MY" anxious thoughts are something I experience, rather than "think myself." They are automatic and I have no control over them!
- Isn’t our luck of being alive the greatest gift we could ask for.
- Be light, be present, play
- Our eyes are the most biasing organs
- I fell out of love with meditation
- When I have had a good conversation with someone I can't stop thinking about it. I keep replaying it.
- "Mindfulness" is just a fancy word for being conscious of the choices you make.
- Meditation Researchers looking for Survey Participants
- How to observe the breath without trying to control it?
- How do I forgive someone and myself...?
- Can i practice Metta meditation with eyes open?
- 777 stay safe and positive����
- vertebral column vibration while meditating
- One is trying to throw away the discomfort from the mind by solaces, practices. There is no place to throw it out. Meditation has happened.
- How can I work through realisations from past relationship that are inflating ego?
- I think I had a breakthrough - is this what meditation is meant to feel like?
- Does meditation make you slow?
- Not feeling anything while meditating? Modern Meditation deception.
- The new meditation text group
- 4 Phrases for Emotional Healing
| Don't hate your ego - invite it to the table Posted: 04 Dec 2020 11:55 AM PST Imagine you are with your best friends, your favourite family members, your favourite celebrities - and you're all having the time of your life. You notice over your shoulder that there is someone at the next table, staring, motionless, into their drink with something on their mind. This is the real 'you' looking at your ego. The real you is only capable of compassion. Befriend the lonely soul next to you with respect, invite this wounded soldier over to your table, buy them a beer. Within thirty minutes, all their problems will have dissolved. Ego death is a misnomer - you befriend your ego, tell them they have a point but they overreacted - earn their trust - and for a moment your ego will relax and take a backseat. Difficult people in your life will stir your ego back into action, completely unaware that it was their own ego that was driving them. It's our responsibility to stop this reaction. We don't get angry with others, we don't get angry with ourselves. We laugh at the absurdity of it all, the collective, insidious trauma of the modern world. In a subject full of jargon, lingo and foreign terms, the answer is hiding in plain sight - being enlightened is being light with yourself, being light with others. [link] [comments] |
| I wrote this reminder to help me. I hope that this might help someone out there too. Posted: 04 Dec 2020 10:12 PM PST Imagine you have a screen in front of you at all times. On this screen is a video tape of your life. And you keep this screen in view at all times. Your life is going on around you, but instead of living it, you keep rewinding this tape over and over and over again. You keep going over the same scenes from your past over and over. Each time you critique the scene, going over what you could have done differently, what went wrong, what you think about the situation. All the while life is going on all around you, and you're missing it. You're too busy watching the tape of your life 30 minutes ago, a few hours ago, a couple days ago, a few months ago. You're missing it all, now. This is the past. Now think about another screen you have that shows you the future. Only thing is, you have no idea what will happen in the future. So you fill it in with your imagination. What if this, what if that. Wouldn't it be terrible if...wouldn't it be amazing if...each time playing a different fantasy. Something you assume is going to happen but has never happened. Something you're scared is going to happen but has never happened. So you play each fantasy, none of it real. But it's all just a ruse because you have no idea what's going to happen. Meanwhile all around you life is happening. And you're missing all of it, staring at a screen showing you what might happen. Now think about another screen you keep on you. This one is the directors commentary. For everything that happens there's an explanation. A story. A commentary. All the reasons why and how. For everything that happens there's something to describe it, something to explain it. And all you can do is pay attention to that explanation. You don't know if it's true or not. But you believe it anyway. And you're missing life all around you while you focus your attention to this commentary. All you do is pay attention to these screens. You'd be a participant in all of life around you if all of your attention weren't focused on all these screens. The past that has already passed. That you can't change. The future that has never happened. That will never happen. The commentary that somehow has a name or a rational explanation or a story for everything around you. You pay attention to ALL THAT. And you have no attention left for the only thing that exists. The only thing that's real. Life, right now, is happening all around you. And you're missing it. [link] [comments] |
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| Posted: 04 Dec 2020 11:28 AM PST As someone who is dealing with panic disorder and agoraphobia, it took my years to realize this... What I mean by that is they are automatic and I experience them in a same way I experience the physical feelings of panic, such as upset stomach. They just happen, they are automatic. They are actually part of the Fight or Flight Response. I used to struggle with them and tried to rationalize for years (and I still do, but much less), and that didn't got me very far. Thoughts that I struggle the most are:"I can't do such and such, because...something might happen." "I can't do it, I am not ready." "I must leave now! If I stay, something terrible will happen." And so on, and so on.... When such thoughts appear now, instead of taking them as FACT and absolute truth, I see them as symptoms of ANXIETY. And I KNOW when fight or flight response calms down (5 to 20 minutes) those thoughts will be gone. I would be lying if I said they don't bother me, they do. They still do, but I feel like I have finally found the "Magic Cure." Posted this at r/Buddhism and it seems like it was helpful to many people. This is a perfect place to share it too. [link] [comments] |
| Isn’t our luck of being alive the greatest gift we could ask for. Posted: 04 Dec 2020 10:10 PM PST Sorry it's a rough draft - still good the be alive no - sorry if wrong subreddit [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 05 Dec 2020 01:33 AM PST When we talk about meditation and mindfulness, there's sometimes a lot of pressure to do it right. To sit, breathe or focus a certain way. It couldn't be further from the truth. Simply accept your practise as it is, enjoying the process of breathing. Today, when I sat down to meditate, I plugged in some beautiful ASMR ocean waves on my Spotify and slowly dived in the session. My breathing quickly evens out, I'm able to observe, let go of thoughts and gently return my focus to breathing. I was sitting cross legged, palms in gyan mudra at my knees and suddenly realise something grazing against my fingers in the left hand. Turns out it's my cat, who's sauntered in while I'm meditating. He has this peculiar habit of fake-chewing on my fingers by hooking the corner of his mouth at the tips and "chewing with his mouth closed". As soon as he did it, I broke out into a small smile that then became a full-on grin (without losing my focus!). Just felt pure joy and love for my golden boy and his ease with me. :) It was such an unexpected, silly moment and was, in fact, the first time he did that - despite me being fairly regular with meditation during the pandemic. I resumed meditating after and was happy to commit about 30 minutes to my practise today. Thank you for reading, I hope you all have a beautiful weekend filled with everything you have been hoping for. Much love, light and peace to all. 💞 Edit: Spelling since I am typing on my phone. [link] [comments] |
| Our eyes are the most biasing organs Posted: 05 Dec 2020 01:11 AM PST I have read that with time meditation leads to many insights. The first insight that people have is that they realize how tremendously busy and clusterfucked our brains really are. This is when they first start experiencing moments of silence . I am sharing my second insight: Everything is an aspect. An aspect is just like an attribute(objective property of a thing) with the crucial difference that is it is a property as relevant to a subject (the self). After months of meditating, just being aware of my sensations and the body in a meaningless manner I, today realized that every one of those sensations is an aspect of self. This aspectualization centers it to self. Until, I opened my eyes. Our eyes force us into an obective frame and quickly enough we are an object in a world made of obects. Abosulutey biased. Do you agree ? What was your second insight ? [link] [comments] |
| I fell out of love with meditation Posted: 04 Dec 2020 07:10 PM PST I meditated every day for 2 months. I loved it. It gave me inner peace, cleared and sharpened my mind in such a short space of time. Then it happened. Whilst watching my breath, I realised I was actually subconsciously controlling my breath which caused me to become short of breath, and have a panic attack. This continued for the next 3-4 practices. So I gave up meditation. Any ideas how I can get around this problem and start this lovely practice one more. Have a great day! [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 04 Dec 2020 08:01 PM PST I have been meditating for a week only. But yes I have noticed this happens with me. Any suggestions? [link] [comments] |
| "Mindfulness" is just a fancy word for being conscious of the choices you make. Posted: 04 Dec 2020 04:45 PM PST It's being conscious of where you put your time and energy, and choosing what you value and don't value. It's all choices. It just takes practice to recognize it. That's all :) [link] [comments] |
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| How to observe the breath without trying to control it? Posted: 05 Dec 2020 12:12 AM PST Possibly the hardest task i've been assigned to do. [link] [comments] |
| How do I forgive someone and myself...? Posted: 04 Dec 2020 08:27 PM PST I just cannot forgive my father what he did to me and to people whom I loved. I do know he has changed a lot or completely after a tragic incident but my soul cannot accept him. He does says he loves me but still I cannot accept it. He asks for forgiveness but I can't. I just want to be what our family like what was before. One would say forgive yourself for not forgiving, ok but I think forgiveness comes from soul not from just words or something. For me things have become so unbearable that suicide seems awesome option than letting it go and myself. Kind of PTSD that I always get flashback of only negative things that he did to me, I do know what he did to me in good and all positive sense but I just cannot accept it. I've been so dumped into negativity that I cannot see anything hopeful and faith anywhere. Hope somebody please helps me... PLEASE... [link] [comments] |
| Can i practice Metta meditation with eyes open? Posted: 05 Dec 2020 01:35 AM PST I feel when I practice meditation with eyes open i'm more aware. Can it works in metta? Thanks! [link] [comments] |
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| vertebral column vibration while meditating Posted: 05 Dec 2020 01:26 AM PST Hi, since I started eating more healty food, doing exercises and working a lot on the emotional sphere, my meditation practice got wonderful improvements. The mind is quieter, the attention is durable and precise. Recently I'm having some powerful and long sessions, where I feel loving connection with everything. My Ego is finally starting to be in the background, also in routine life, and a new unattached perspective is taking place. A week or so ago, the vibration started as a kind of feeling inside my body, like a sound which a couln't ear, at a lower frequency. In the past few days my vertebral column started moving without any muscle intention or effort, following this vibration. At first it was a very subtle movement, now it's 3-4 cm wide. It's a gentle and harmonic movement, approx 1.5-2 Hz. I usually don't use music during my practice, but when I do I get there faster. Wonder if anybody else experienced this physical vibration, and what could be. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 04 Dec 2020 09:40 PM PST One is under the illusion as if sorrow, anger, fear, anxiety and so on are to be covered up or glossed over or thrown away. Nothing can be thrown out of the mind. You are not feeling sorrow, anger, fear, anxiety (uncertainty) but simply trying to throw them away from your mind. This is what causes the trouble. By coining the idea of God or by techniques, ideas one thinks as if one has solved the basic human predicament – 'why something happens which one dislikes, which is irritating, shocking.' The basic human predicament can not be solved by any explanation but is rested when you notice it. When the nervous system experiences this predicament, this resistance, this discomfort, this pain – what you do, you try to throw the resistance out of you mind. There is no place to throw it. Once you see this, the whole energy is here. [link] [comments] |
| How can I work through realisations from past relationship that are inflating ego? Posted: 05 Dec 2020 01:24 AM PST Long-term relationship ended 5-6 months ago after they were trying to hide messages with someone I always was suspicious of. Dealing with the break-up itself was not too stressful however after reflecting on the relationship and seeing how different my life is without their presence, I have noticed that what he believed in our disagreements has not been true. I have tried to be unbiased and think from their perspective but cannot see how their values in the relationship were accurate to reality. Things like being told my suspicion about the other person was irrational which made me doubt myself as I trusted him even though they turned out to be valid. Or just in general on the negative comments they made about my lifestyle (health, routine, hobbies). Which from experience since the breakup, those comments are not seeming to be valid and the reasons behind why he said them are not logical. Now because it seems to me that "I was right", the way I am thinking is feeding my ego and it can make me less compassionate or understanding of others. It's hard for me to not get trapped or accept thoughts if I think that they are all true. Any advice on how to work through this? [link] [comments] |
| I think I had a breakthrough - is this what meditation is meant to feel like? Posted: 04 Dec 2020 03:32 PM PST After about a decade or so of on/off dabbling in meditation, I managed to do something completely different last night which felt unlike anything I've ever experienced. I've always practiced by closing my eyes, counting to 3 is breathe in, holding for 3, exhaling for 3 - and just trying to redirect my mind to that when I notice that it drifts away from it. I've always found this relaxing to an extent but that's as far as it goes and sort of wondered what I was missing. Granted, I was a little high last night so I think that probably made a difference in some capacity. I was just laid down but rather than counting my breaths, I was just breathing deeply, holding, letting go - kind of just "feeling it" rather than doing anything particularly logical with it. I wasn't even trying to meditate which is why this caught me off guard - but a little while later I suddenly noticed that I was in a really abstract state. Super hard to put in words but it was like it wasn't "me" breathing if that makes sense? It was like I was just observing myself taking these breaths. I was no longer consciously inhaling and exhaling, it was just happening. I was in a sort of hyper aware state that felt completely different. I think I started to lose my grip on it once I became aware of it and began analysing the situation but I felt extremely relaxed and like this was the point I had been missing all of these years. It was almost a euphoric feeling I would definitely like to return to. Am I on the right lines? If this what meditation is actually meant to be or was I just really stoned? Thanks! [link] [comments] |
| Does meditation make you slow? Posted: 05 Dec 2020 12:33 AM PST Hi, I have been meditating on and off for the past few years. Some periods with great success and others not so much. There are definitive benefits of meditating, and I see how it greatly enhances my life in many ways. In other ways, I'm not so sure. To take an example, I visited my sister last evening and had dinner. Earlier that day I had meditated and was in a calm state of mind. She on the other hand had just worked out and had quite a lot of energy. There was quite a difference in our energy levels. She was way more fast-paced, and I was more tranquil. Of course, this is not necessarily a bad thing, I reckon the positive sides of being calm and peaceful, however, I want to be on par with my peers who don't meditate, be it either fast or slow thinking, high or low energy. Sometimes I feel that meditating makes me passive and indifferent. I accept the current state of things, and instead of trying to change them, I resort to my default meditating state. What do you think? [link] [comments] |
| Not feeling anything while meditating? Modern Meditation deception. Posted: 05 Dec 2020 12:31 AM PST Because you were meditating all wrong... [link] [comments] |
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| 4 Phrases for Emotional Healing Posted: 04 Dec 2020 03:45 PM PST I am taking a course on mindful dying through the Conscious Dying Institute. I am not dying but I am taking the course to gain some useful skills. I was thinking about difficult emotions that can arise through the dying process, which is something the course focuses on. I remembered a phrase that I've used quite a bit when a difficult emotion comes up: "I accept whatever arises with unconditional love", alternatively sometimes I use "I accept whatever arises without judgment." I thought about this phrase some more, especially in the context of emotional healing which is a very important aspect of dying; especially relating to healing the unresolved. I considered one aspect of emotional healing: that one should address and acknowledge the difficult material/emotions coming up; and not only meet those difficult areas but learn to embrace them as fully as possible. It doesn't mean we want a difficult emotion to linger longer than it has to; it is just that when we embrace something we can do more with it; we give it more space to be fully acknowledged and more fully healed; instead of rather grudgingly accepting it and just trying to get it out of the way as soon as possible. Next, I wanted to consider one of the most important aspects of emotional healing: releasing and transforming the pain. We don't want to just bring the pain to mind without doing anything with it; we want to creatively work with our emotional pain in a variety of ways (and with a variety of techniques potentially including mindful breathing, vocal sounds, chanting/music, drumming, etc.) in order to bring about greater integration, wholeness, and healing. With this in mind, I expanded my initial phrase to four parts, which I plan to use when I am dealing with my own emotional pain: 1) "I accept whatever arises with unconditional love (or, without judgment)". 2) "I embrace whatever arises with unconditional love". 3) "I release whatever arises with unconditional love". 4) "I transform whatever arises with unconditional love". This helps me focus on the primary objective of emotional healing: embracing, releasing and transforming the pain; instead of grudgingly accepting it or pushing it away. Also, I have to remind myself that the point of emotional healing is not getting caught up further in the pain; that is not the purpose for embracing it. The purpose for embracing it is so we can create a better environment and more fertile ground for releasing and fully healing/integrating the emotional pain. The point of emotional healing is releasing and healing the difficult material, not dwelling on pain and getting it further embedded in our narrative. We heal by developing a supportive relationship to the pain and learning to deeply acknowledge it, work with it constructively, and in the process of doing that work, transform it. In this way I think we have greater potential to heal more fully and discover possibilities of healing that were previously unknown to us. I have found that Thich Nhat Hanh's "four mantras" practice can also be helpful in this process: 1) I am here for you. 2) I know that you are there and that makes me so happy 3) I know you suffer, and that is why I am here for you. 4) Darling, I suffer. Please help. One key for me is opening to the emotional wounds, instead of shutting down or pushing them away. And then, rather than just stopping at accepting the difficult emotions, actively working to release them and transform them through drumming, chanting, vocal sounds, dancing, poetry, etc. One important thing I've learned in this type of work is that healing happens on its own schedule. One really knowledgeable practitioner told me that his teacher Stephen Levine went up to him and said "you have to be okay even if nothing changes; if nothing improves". Just going through the process of healing without forcing results. [link] [comments] |
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